HAVING A BREAK?

Hello! Welcoming everyone on my blog with the same enthusiasm for the fun SA-TUR-DAY! This is my first blog of the year 2021… 🥳 Regardless of everything that 2020 threw at us, I think in this year we can look back proudly knowing that we survived our hardest days. And now it is time for us to flourish like never before. It is time for us to find happiness and peace we’ve always wanted. I hope everyone is doing absolutely well and have a great weekend. Coffee cheers! 🤩

When I started writing about six months ago, I never thought I would really take such a long break. Consistency is challenging. But taking a break is not always about self-improvement. At times, it can also be about taking time to be present with yourself, to make time for self-care. We’re capable of change but we don’t always need to be super productive. I actually had Me Time in the last couple of months and took a break from writing and posting blogs… Oops! How can I be a blogger if I’m not writing? Is taking a break from what you’re doing in such a short span wrong? Is being a blogger and not writing everyday right? Sometimes you might feel like writing a piece and having a break instead of jumping onto writing another one. Maybe you have a lot of ideas in your mind but you don’t choose any and spend the days figuring out what you actually need. You might have other things going on in your life which may not be more important but you give them a chance anyway. You do.

It is not always about surviving. Sometimes it is more than that. You need transparency with your thoughts to make decisions for yourself. And for that, working through the barriers that stop us from validating ourselves is very important. At times, the barriers could be people. When there is no validation from others, we feel like it’s not worth. And the prime concern of doing something is switched. How do some people so easily make you feel like you’re not good enough? And how does that make you doubt yourself? Everyone won’t see what you see. Just because someone fails to see your worth, doesn’t make them a bad person and it doesn’t mean you’re incapable. You should always be there for yourself when no one else is there for you. You’ll get where you need to be.

Regardless of how many things we promise ourselves we would do, sometimes they don’t happen. Bad days, weeks, months may take place. Having a break may help. Even though you enjoy your work immensely, there could be a time when you struggle to focus. Sit with yourself and unpack what you feel and why. If I do what I love doing then that is ok. And if I’m having a break from what I’m doing, then that is ok too. Allow yourself to fail. Allow yourself to fall. Allow yourself to flow. Allow yourself too.

It’s a new year. Allow yourself to begin again. Let yourself ease into the new year one day at a time. What didn’t get done today will be there tomorrow and that’s ok. So you deserve having a break.

The journey of self worth is a journey worth taking.


Also, I missed blogging! I enjoyed blogging and I’m hoping to get back soon. I also wanted to thank everyone who checked up on me during my time away. It feels nice to know that some people noticed my absence and that y’all care. 🥰

THANK YOU!

Vidhi Sonar

7th February, 2020

HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH?

Olá🎶! Como estás? Its another fun Saturday! Well, today I thought of trying Portuguese language. And it means, “Hello! How are you all?” I hope you all are having a cozy day so far! Yesterday, I spent the evening with my dad at our very own favorite couch, having a cup of coffee when I told him about my blogs and we just had a small conversation on how people have engaged themselves on so many social media platforms.

The way people look into the world of social media has totally changed this year. No doubt, it provides benefit to the worldwide bloggers, writers, influencers and artists to display their art! In the world of competition, social media has always played the role of a godfather! But at times, your engagement is not up to the mark and that’s when you start feeling that you’re not good enough to continue your journey. How does social media help us in such situations? We hope it helps but it doesn’t. There are some things that social media doesn’t tell us. Well, I have got that for you!

  • Say a big NO to comparing.

It is so easy to compare ourselves to people we find on social media these days. And whether we realize it or not, we all compare ourselves to others. It is a part of human nature. But how many times is it a healthy comparison? Rather than wishing that you have what they have, be grateful. Focus on what you have. It matters what you think of you. Obviously you cannot kill the comparative thoughts in your mind, but you can definitely be inspired. You can learn, not so you can be better than others, but so you can be the best version of yourself. People usually share the part of them they are most proud of. So comparing your low points to someone else’s high points is a big NO! Love yourself. Know that you’re more than enough.

  • Celebrate small wins.

Remember the time when a thought of doing something came across your mind? Remember the reviews and love you received for it? And that’s when you promised yourself to continue it. Small wins are so important as a form of progress. When you set goals for yourself and pursue them, it’s easy to lose sight of how far you’ve actually come. Take time to stop and allow yourself to celebrate small wins that you’ve attained in your journey. Note down the moments that made you feel good and you will be surprised to see how far you have actually come! It is ok to be disappointed if you don’t find yourself getting closer to your goals. You can try hard. You’ve started something. You’ve invested in it. And that is good enough than somebody who never actually started. You see? Here comes the celebration for your small win!

  • Focus on progress, not perfection.

As a part of social media, being perfect is everyone’s choice. But perfection is an illusion. What you need to focus is on progress. Instead of making all the perfect changes at once, start with one at a time and then move onto the next. If you’re consistent and do not give up when you think you’re not good enough, anything for you is accomplishable. At times perfection stops you from challenging yourself because you’re so comfortable at your own pace that you’re afraid of giving a shot to other tasks you’ve never tried before. You might take one step forward and two steps back but you’re learning what works for you and what doesn’t. Progress is progress no matter what. Be consistent in your process and enjoy the journey.

  • Stop over-identifying.

Over-identifying yourself thinking you’re not good enough can make you feel weak. Failures are a part of journey. Just like you cannot post 100 things in a day, you should not rush to give up without even knowing why you failed. Maybe we cannot control what has already happened, but we can change our mindset. Take time to figure out. Learn from them and try something different. Maybe repeating the same may not help, so welcome new ideas. Your worth is definitely not based on how many likes you get. If you don’t like the way you’re thinking, change it. But over-identifying yourself? Nope!

  • You’ve enemies? GREAT!

Accept it. Not everyone is going to be happy to see doing what you love. There is always that one person, who’ll disregard your efforts. But what really matters is your attention not feeding such negativity. When you have talent, and you show it to others, others have the liberty to speak what they feel. At times, they say it to your face and at times, they just oppose everything you do. But we should never change ourself just to be liked by others. Taking a stand always creates opposition. If you’ve enemies, great! That’s because you’re good at what you’re doing. Your honesty towards your work is more important. 

  • Don’t be afraid to start all over again.

Sometimes we cannot finish what we have started. You suddenly feel it’s not worth and you stop trying. But the failures can never define who you are. You can start your journey again from the first step. We get attracted to different things when we believe that we deserve them. So don’t block yourself from trying something different. Don’t be afraid to start all over again. You may like your new story better. Get all your power together and try hard. What is meant for you will not pass you by. 

  • Your happiness is important

While you go through the process, your happiness is important x 100. If you have negative thoughts, reframe them. Find out where they are coming from and try to improve it. Acknowledge your thoughts. Trust your decisions. Believe that your hard work has led you to the exact place you need to be. Believe that you’re responsible for your own happiness. And you deserve all the happiness!

What is the meaning of good enough? How much is enough? Your goals never stop at one place and it shouldn’t. That’s how you don’t wait for enough. Social media is a platform that gives you a chance to be good enough every time. So utilize the time and engage yourself. I know my blogs are not perfect. But I also knew that if I never started it off, I wouldn’t have reach where I am now. Publish. Post. Share. Send. Don’t stop just because you feel you’re not good enough. Give yourself space to make mistakes and learn from them. Just be true to yourself. And whatever you’ve managed to do today is absolutely more than enough!

Wishing you all a relaxing Saturday!

Adeus! (Goodbye)

Vidhi Sonar

24th October, 2020

HAPPY NAVRATRI

Sawasdee kha! SabaiDee Rue kha? Welcome back! So I’ve started learning to greet in different languages and it is going pretty well. I hope you’re enjoying it too! This was the Thai language all the way from Thailand! I said, “Hello! How are you all?” I hope everyone is doing great and had a good week! Now one thing I observed in this language is that men and women use different ending words. It is ‘Sawasdee Krab’ for a male and ‘Sawasdee Kha’ for a female. Interesting, isn’t it? 😁

Its autumn already! October always has an effortless way of making me feel happy. These days will never fail to be my favorite despite of the current situation! There is something so welcoming, warm and peaceful about them. And to start with, we’re already ready for Navratri! 😍 Just like the conversation differs as I told in the above paragraph, celebrating the festival of Navratri differs in different parts of India. As I mentioned in my last blog, India has always amazed me! Be it culture, food, language, attire. (Maybe everything) Everything is so unique in itself! The North, South, East and West India celebrates Navratri with the same enthusiasm. But the way of performing the rituals varies from North to South and East to West. Let’s see how Navratri is celebrated across India.

  • Navratri in North India

The unique part about Navratri in North India is that, the celebration starts when it is about to end in the other states. Who doesn’t know the victory of Lord Rama over the king Ravana, to rescue his wife Sita! To celebrate this every year, effigies of Ravana are burnt all across the country. It is also called Vijayadashmi, which means, victory on the tenth day. And, and, and is also known as Dusshera which means a celebration marking the return of Lord Rama to Ayodhya.

  • Navratri in East India

One of the mind-blowing celebrations of Navratri happens in the North-Eastern part of India. The last five days of nine nights are celebrated as Durga Puja all across the country along with its origin. A sculpture of Devi Durga with weapons in her hand riding on a lion is worshipped. It is known for the victory of Goddess Durga over Mahishasura, a buffalo demon, who received a boon of immortality. The vibes are all over the place and the celebration here is amazing!

  • Navratri in South India

Not many know, but South India has a special way of celebrating Navratri. Families in South India decorate their houses by placing doll figures of many gods and goddesses. There are also toy shaped men, women, children and animals. It is known as Bommai Kolu. It depicts scenes from Indian stories like Ramayana and Dashavataram. This festival teaches a lot of precious lessons from the timeless stories. The art and creativity is showcased in a wonderful way which helps us connect better.

  • Navratri in West India

Navratri is one of the most awaited festivals in the Western part of India. Garba and Dandiya is a form of dance performed gracefully here for nine days wearing the traditional dresses. People even join classes to practice this style of dance. Some people even fast during these days and have maintained a different way of celebrating it over the years. People across the country also celebrate it this way but can’t deny, original is unique!

The festival is really enchanting and only reading about it can also make you happy! The important part of this festival has always been about reconnecting with the history and celebrating with our loved ones. The rituals are so charming in every corner of the country that India never fails to amaze you! ❤️

Wishing you all a Happy Navratri!💃

Laagorn Krab/Ka

(Goodbye)

Vidhi Sonar

17th October, 2020

SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD

Happy Wednesday everyone! So this is my very first blog on a weekday but it is also special! I’m having a super busy week but can’t deny the fact that I’m extremely excited on anotherrrrrrrrr level to share with you all this good news.

I got nominated for my first ever award for my blog a few weeks back. It’s the SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD! So I read a lot about it to know what it is and here we are!

The Sunshine Blogger Award’ is given to the bloggers who inspire positivity and creativity while spreading sunshine in the blogging community.

All thanks goes to Soni (Soni’s thoughts). I was nominated for this award by her. Soni is a wonderful person just like her blogs are! If you haven’t visited her site yet, you have to check it out now (probably after reading this blog!) Her blog is filled with variety of posts! There is Art, Poems, lots of Motivation and what not. And the pictures that she uploads are created by her and are so beautiful that you just cannot resist appreciating! Her site is one of my favorites. And I’m so thankful to her for nominating me!

Visit her website by clicking on the link below –  sonibindaas571181659.wordpress.com

This blog is going to be super long but I hope, I keep you entertained throughout!


So there are some rules that I must stick to regarding this blog. They are as follows – 

  1. Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blog.
  2. Answer the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 11 people you know, notify them and ask 11 new questions to your nominees.
  4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award photo in your post.

So the fact that amazes me is that Soni nominated me for this award TWO times and I’m so delighted to answer her questions! So there would be 22 amazing questions and my answers to them. (I hope I make the answers amazing too😁) So lets get started!

SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD #1

Q. What ‘writing’ means to you?

– Writing is a way for me to express my feelings. Also, the way I write helps me to discover new things about myself. The more I write, the more I get inspired. Also, a quick tip. Never search on google, ‘How to be a writer?’ Because there is no substitute for your experiences. Write what you feel!😊

Q. What inspires you the most in your life?

– Nature is an abstract inspiration for me. I like observing nature as it inspires me a lot. If it’s materialistic, then obviously books! Books can teach you, inspire, entertain and plays a major role in shaping you. Also, if it means people who inspire me; no doubt, my parents! The inspiration I acquire from both of them is totally different which I love the most about them.😊

Q. Do you love adventure? If yes then what is the most interesting adventure journey you did last time?

– Not sure if I really love adventure! If the adventures are blood-curdling, it’s a big NO! (Not a person who will sing ‘Aaj kuch toofani karte hai’) But if it’s exciting, I don’t mind.😋 Not a big fan of trekking but I go for trek once in a year. The last time I had an interesting adventure journey was to Torna Fort, located in Pune, Maharashtra.

Q. What is the most memorable event in your life, which brings a smile on your face always?

– There are many! But to mention one, I’ll note the recent one here. My every birthday has been quite similar. So this year, I celebrated my birthday with all my loved ones. I usually don’t celebrate it, but this year it was different (beautiful different) and it will always be a memorable event in my life. As I’m sitting here and writing my blog, my birthday still brings a smile on my face! 😁

Q. Who is your idol?

– My parents.😊

Q. How would you motivate people in this pandemic time?

– I started this blog site to write something that would motivate people to be positive in this pandemic period. So yes, I think I can motivate people in this pandemic time by my blogs. Also, when I write something and people relate to it, I feel the connection closely and that helps me outspread more motivation.

Q. What is your thought in staying fit?

– This is a perfect question but unfortunately to the wrong person!😅 I think staying fit should come naturally and not by necessarily trying to lose or gain weight. We should be happy as long as we feel good from inside. Also, this is the beginning of festival season! So we will have to make a goal to maintain our fitness. Find some activities you enjoy and try them. It will definitely improve your fitness.😁

Q. What changes this pandemic has brought in your life, Or can say your daily schedule?

– The biggest change this pandemic has brought is that I have at least 2 hours of journaling/writing daily. No matter how good or bad my day is, I never miss a chance to write something. This has many advantages and has helped me to a great extent! I hope I continue this later too.😃

Q. If given chance, then what is the place you would like to visit, and why?

– I have many favorite places to visit on my list! But I really wanted to visit South India this year; but due to the circumstances it is postponed now. Both the nature and culture both are special here. After all India has always amazed me!❤️

Q. In blogging field, where would you want to see yourself after 5 years?

– This is a predictable and unpredictable question at the same time! I always wanted to note down my thoughts. A writer is a person who is never satisfied with his work and so, he keeps experimenting with his work. I always try to give my best. I actually see myself having 260 more blogs in the next 5 years! (Not going to lie. I just calculated.😂) And yes! Unroll more and more SUNSHINE!😊

Q. In your opinion what motto to follow to stay happy and peaceful?

– There is one of my favorite lines that I used in my first blog. It was, “Everyone will storm about and your lantern will go out. But it is you who lights it up again and moves on…”  I personally think, being happy and peaceful at the same time is in your hands. So the motto I follow is that believe in yourself. Work hard on yourself. You can always make yourself happy no matter what.

SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD #2

Q. Do you love traveling, If yes then what is the most memorable event in your travel journey till date?

– Yes, of course I love traveling! Umm.. There are many, but the most memorable one was a trip to North India. I had no idea about it and I was told two days before leaving. So I was shocked and surprised at the same time but it is one of my best trips!

Q. What is the most happiest memory you have from your childhood?

– I was seven when my brother was born. So all the happiest memories that I remember started from there. It is quite difficult for me to note down one of them.

Q. Are you a foodie? If yes what is your favorite cuisine and why?

– I wish Panipuri was named under a cuisine!☹️ Anyways, I love Indian and Italian dishes!😋

Q. Ever any event made you anxious?

– Not really. But if anythings makes you anxious, then share it with the people you trust. Talking to someone can really help you. And give yourself time to cope up from that situation.😊

Q. What is music for you?

– So the people who have read my earlier blogs would know that I was not a music person. 😅 But I started listening to a lot of music since the pandemic. I also asked for suggestions on my blog and there were so many recommendations!😃 For me, music is stress reliever and  something that calms us. And that is why I mostly listen to soothing music.

Q. Why did you start writing blogs? And why only blogs?

– I would surely give a bit of credit to quarantine otherwise I don’t think writing a blog was possible in the near future!😁 I have already told why I started writing blogs and there is no specific reason why only blogs. Maybe the reason why I started writing blogs is because I LOVE reading blogs! (I have discovered my answer! Its the connection.☺️)

Q. What makes you angry immediately?

– Hmmmm.. A reason maybe? Getting angry is just a reaction. 😌

Q. Do you love Me time? If yes then what do you do in your me time?

– Of course I love ME time! I do nothing. Precisely nothing😅 (I think this is the most common answer.) But yes, my me time does not allow it to be ‘smartphone time’. The happiness of being in one’s own company is more important.

Q. If you were given power of God for one day, what would you do?

– I don’t want power of god. Everyone has a different perspective which I don’t think I’ll change.

Q. What is your fitness mantra?

– I have already answered this question.

Q. A true friend – who according to you is a true friend and why?

– I have connected to so many people for the last 5 years but haven’t met a single person who is close to me as much as my school friends. I have only 10 friends from my school and I’m sure, they’re my true friends. Because they have known me for a very long time, they know a lot about me.  They are there for me when I need them the most and I’m truly grateful. ❤️ And yes, they are true to me! 😁


I further nominate – 

http://sonibindaas571181659.wordpress.com  (I would love to read your answers to my questions this time!)

http://akshayabobale.wordpress.com

http://blogwithshreya.wordpress.com

http://thesublimeink.wordpress.com

m2pen2world.wordpress.com

http://artofcoursevanakkamisbetterthanhandshakes.wordpress.com

http://mokshahegde.wordpress.com

http://thoughtswithink.com

http://livingwithgraceandstrength.wordpress.com

anumehalakra.wordpress.com

silentsilverytears.wordpress.com


My questions –

  1. What does sunshine mean to you?
  2. Why did you start blogging?
  3. What is self-care for you?
  4. Which is the favorite book that you’ve read?
  5. Which is the most beautiful place you’ve ever been to?
  6. Have you ever wanted to be a citizen of another country? If yes, which country?
  7. Introduce me to a new word that you’ve learned recently.
  8. What new skills have you acquired during lockdown?
  9. What were the challenges when you started blogging?
  10. If you could recreate 2020, how would it be?
  11. Why should bloggers follow your blog? 😊

Today I had a lovely time answering all these questions! I hope you enjoyed this post too. Also, enjoy your Wednesday. Indulge yourself in a nice cup of coffee or tea. And take care everyone! See you on Saturday. 😊

Vidhi Sonar

14th October, 2020

WHAT LITTLE THINGS MEAN?

Selamat malam everyone! Apa kabar? No wonder why I haven’t left Asia yet. There is so much to learn from so many countries within Asia that we can just keep on enjoying! So yes, today I tried to learn some basic words in Indonesian, the official language of Indonesia. And obviously, many of us have already cracked what I said! Yes, “Good evening everyone! How are you all doing?” I hope you all are safe and having a great time with your loved ones!

It’s a new month, wonderful weekend and a fresh week is almost here! Well what about you? What have you been up to lately? I completely know that the situation and we living according to it, is still the same and nothing has changed. I know that we all are waiting for a change. A positive change. The lockdown had got us so much, but still we also want to live like we used to. I personally feel that there is no need to wait for a change. You can still survive; or rather you can still make a change that you’re craving for. I don’t mean you take your bike and start roaming around the city whenever you want! But you can still continue the little things that you enjoyed before COVID.

Anyways there are some things that I have observed to be minimal though they are very important. I just said that you can relive the little things but at the same time, there are also little things that you don’t remember but have a great impact. These are some points that you’ll read and imagine ‘This is not new! Come on Vidhi! We know better. We know what to do!’ (Ok, if you say so. But think about it twice.)

  • Be considerate and wear a mask.

A lot of things that you’re doing on your side are simple. I know it gets boring when you start doing it repeatedly. But this is a fact! You have to be consistent. Start wearing a mask  even if you still think it’s not so cool. It may sound good to you but it’s not the same for the people around you. I personally think, this is the only practice where we can say that ‘You can keep doing the same thing and expect your life to turn out differently!’

  • Give yourself time to cope up from the situation.

Yes. This is like very very easy apart from the fact that you don’t give yourself time to cope up but you blame yourself in that time. You never know what’s around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you’ve climbed a mountain. Giving yourself time to cope up and keep going in all the situations is very important. Your instant response will always be full of panicking and trying to fix it instead of understanding it. So to avoid the situation getting worse you have to give yourself time.

  • Recognize your responsibility towards your family and your loved ones.

It’s a high time now that you change your meaning of positive changes if it only means chilling or having fun. It is very important to recognize your responsibility as a member of your family. Social distancing is not between you and your responsibilities. And pushing the responsibilities on others is even worse. You have to remind yourself that you’re worth of doing things and you can do it. Focus grows where focus goes. Don’t distract your focus. Find out what is best for you and the people around you!

  • Respect other people’s comfort level

It is equally important to respect other people’s comfort level when you talk about self care. It is not just you who is facing this situation for more than six months now. All we want is to be happy. We’re in this together. So the most important thing for us right now, is to be kind and respectful to each other. If you’re counting on people, make sure you don’t make them lose their comfort zone. Also, if you think your comfort level is not being counted, speak up! Let them know how you feel. I’m sure it will help all of us grow!

Things happen. Obviously you cannot control what has already happened. But you have to accept that it is you, who should keep yourself happy. Live simple. Work diligently. Take care of your energy. Never stop doing little things because they’re the biggest hope. Sometimes the tiniest things can hold an important place in your heart. So give those little things a big try! Always keep moving forward no matter where life takes you because life doesn’t end in one place. Life is a journey. Enjoy your journey!

Take care and stay safe.

Vidhi Sonar

10th October, 2020

HOW TO BUILD YOUR BETTER VERSION?

Sain baina uu! Ta san suuj baina uu? Welcome back! You guys have no idea how much fun this is. So I’ve started learning to greet in different languages and it is going pretty well. I hope you’re enjoying it too! This was from Mongolia and I said, “Hello! How are you all?” I hope everyone is doing great and had a good week! For me, it’s been quite a busy day so far, though the weather here is very cozy and beautiful.

Recently, I’ve been practicing to start my every day with some positive affirmations. I think, the way we look at our day influences the way it will go, which is why, it is important to begin each day with a positive affirmation. “Today is going to be a great day.” Look how simple it is! Still if I repeat it everyday, it will play the same magic! When you meet someone, you immediately give a compliment so that the person feels good, feels appreciated. You too need the same kind of love. It doesn’t mean you’ve to keep waiting for someone else to give you a compliment. Say nice things to yourself. My every blog has stated the importance of self love. I keep talking about it. I believe reading something that pushes me to work hard for myself everyday, motivates me. Giving yourself a break, taking care of self is indispensable.

Here are some of the positive affirmations that boost me up to have a positive and active day. I hope it helps you too.

If you’re waiting for someone to appreciate your efforts rather than complimenting yourself, don’t do that. Only you can define your worth. So make sure that whatever you’re telling yourself is beautiful! Just say “Main apni/apna favorite hoon!” and live each day to the fullest. 😁

Let’s grow together!

Today is a good day to have a good day.

Happy weekend!

Bayrtai! (Goodbye)

Vidhi Sonar

26th September, 2020

ARE YOU THERE FOR YOUR LOVED ONES?

And it’s a Saturdayyyyyy!

Ayubowan! Bohoma Istouti for reading my blogs! Ovou, I mean ‘yes’, I’ll stop and explain. 😅 So it means ‘Hello, thank you very much for reading my blogs.’ I feel like it is getting better now, right? So for the people who are reading my blog for the first time – I’ve started learning how to greet in different languages and some other basic words. And it is so captivating! By the way, this was in Sinhala from Sri Lanka. Anyways! I hope you’re having a delightful weekend.

Have you ever tried to help someone? By help, I don’t mean like giving an advice. (We all have a Phd in it!) But just being there. Yes, it is not your job to be everything to everyone, I know! But are you there for your loved ones at least? Why is anyone going to say ‘no’? Of course we are! But are they happy the way you are looking after them? Who cares! Uh-huh… You should!! 

Let’s name the person you’re helping through the situation. Let’s name her Vee. Vee is going through a lot recently. What are you doing for her? Giving her advices? Telling her that she should have not done this at first place? Asking her not to repeat it again? Or just unfriend her to get away from the problem? Right, we’re not so cruel. But since now you’ve come to know what you do, let’s see what you should REALLY do!

  • You need not be a “know-all” person

Sometimes the people around you cannot explain to you how they feel. Maybe the feelings cannot be put into words. Or maybe carrying the wound with them is far more difficult than making you understand it. But this creates misunderstanding. When someone is going through a painful phase, they usually don’t have the energy to respond at times. If they are not responding, understand that they are not comfortable. Checking on the people you love should happen naturally. If they need you, they’ll reach you. Your kindness will always be appreciated!

  • Don’t be a big question mark

At times they’ll tell you everything. Avoid giving them advice of what they shouldn’t do instead of motivating them.   Don’t make them lose their self-confidence if you cannot help to build one. You may not agree with all of it, but that’s not the point. If you’re not sure how to respond, just listen. It’s often more helpful to listen to their sadness than to try to relieve it. Give them the time to be upset. They’re going to be upset. Maybe the pain they are feeling now is temporary; but what if you say something that will hit them harder and will stay there for the rest of their life?

  • Follow up with them

Doing a favor doesn’t mean you have to get involved in every matter. You need to trust them. They’re already engrossed in a lot of things. It might be the different situation that they are facing and not the sly intention to ignore you. Maintaining your relationship might be the last thing on their mind. But if you’re presupposing and building their story in your brain, then that my friend, is wrong! Maintain the social distance with your imaginative stories! Rather you could just follow up with them after every 2 to 3 days. Don’t push them to tell you every single thing, every single day. Let them choose. Give them their space. They’ll love you even more!

  • Share all your heart

Also there are people who are afraid to help others because what if you say something and then you’re blamed. Safe game, right? I don’t think so. You are here to help them. They need you. Help them go through the situation. It is ok if they have to relearn. They’ll always remember how they recovered. Everyone has their own struggle. You can never be there in someone else’s struggle the whole time. But the time that you’re investing must be helpful. Make them focus on their strengths. Encourage them. Just be there with all your heart. The magic will work!

This is something we need to start today to make a change. There are wonderful days ahead of you. Make it even more wonderful for the people around you. If they’re upset share with them a meme, crack a joke or at least drop a message. Let them know, they’ll never have to do this alone. Just be there. Don’t leave when they need you the most.  There is someone who needs what you have to give. And they’re lucky to have you! You’re an amazing person!

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend ahead!

Vidhi Sonar

19th September, 2020

WHAT IS GOING WELL FOR YOU?

Konnichiwa! O-genki desu ka? Yesss! The people who are reading my blog for the first time may not know; so, I’ve been learning to greet everyone in different languages, which I think is interesting. This was in Japanese and it means, ‘Hello! How are you?’ Isn’t it fun? 😁 I hope you’re having a beautiful day. Last week, I shared my not-to-do list with you all and thought of sharing a to-do-list this week.

Everyone started off their quarantine with exciting things to do. Drawing, dancing, singing, baking and so on. As soon as the monsoon season arrived (in India) with tons of festivals, people moved to dressing up, clicking pictures of themselves as well as photographing the nature, skies, trees, etc. And now we’re here… simply bored! Though some of us are still enthusiastic and socializing [virtually:)], some are just scratching their heads and finding out a solution.

I have myself read so much about how your ideal day should be and I don’t think it applies to everyone in the same manner. Though, I don’t know how many of you all will relate to it but this is something I’ve been practicing for half a year now, obviously because of COVID and want to continue further.

  • Having a calm morning

I think sleep is one of the most common things that we all struggle with. I don’t think I have faced this problem in my entire life as much as I did in the last 6 months. We sleep late, we wake up late and that my friend becomes a schedule which you’re definitely not supposed to follow! Many bellwethers would tell you to wake up early whereas I think waking up without feeling tired is more important. Preferably, we should just have a peaceful sleep and a calm morning. The world is taking a break right now. Then why not you? Schedule your work and pamper yourself with a goodnight sleep. 

PS. I would love to know the reasons why people sleep at 5AM and wake up at 3PM? Practicing to leave the country already? 🧐

  • Eat what you love

Having a healthy lifestyle starts with having healthy food but how many of you agree that normal is too boring? For me, food is the thing that brings joy. What I eat is the reflection of how I feel. Obviously someone is going to tell you to eat healthy to feel good but I’m going to tell you to eat what you love to feel the best. You can have a large cheese burst pizza and chocolate pancakes if you want to. Unhealthy food isn’t bad if you have a balanced diet. Everything in moderation. Plan your meals for a week on Sundays and give a treat to your tummy!

PS. Here I want to know about the people who only have snacks; how are you convincing your family?

  • Reading books

I don’t know why I wrote this point third on the list.  (Sorry book lovers!)🙋🏻‍♀️ Anyways! We all know the power of books so I’ll just skip it. Many of us don’t like reading books. Some of them already went asleep! I know it takes a lot of effort to read a book along with your daily schedule and it is hard to manage at times. But I feel that reading a book will help a lot. I’ve been doing a lot of reading this year so far. Currently, I have started listening to audiobooks. You can also listen to an audiobook or maybe read an ebook if you don’t have books at your home right now to start your game. You will soon know, how much fun reading is! I absolutely know that holding a book in our hands gives us the vibe but if you feel like reading in this way, cheers!

PS. Let me know if you have any new favorite reads!

  • Share your playlist

I’m not a music person! Though I’ve started listening to a lot of music for a few months now. Some of us are very particular when it comes to music. Music has the power to set up our moods. And the moods… yes, they differ! There will always be a song that you’ll relate to. So why not share it? Sharing your playlist is like sharing the last piece of your pizza or maybe not that big a deal!😂 So why not? What if your friends relate to it too? You don’t need to have a fancy playlist to share. Recommend and encourage people to listen to it only if you feel comfortable.

PS, I would be interested to know what you are humming lately? Possibly we could have a similar taste!

  • Start a new hobby or revisit an old one

Lockdown has affected us in every possible way. But the same situation has given us a chance to revisit all our hobbies that we left behind. You might as well look for a new hobby. Also, your hobby is supposed to be your mood-changer. It can be writing, playing instruments, gardening or even, playing cards, netflixing and having fun with your pet. Don’t choose a hobby to follow the trend. Stay true to yourselves. Trust me, you’ll feel so much lighter!


After reading this you’ll think, this is normal. This is what we do everyday! But try to see the world with a different lens. We can look for excitement in everything. Don’t let anyone else tell you how to have fun. I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about what I need to do for myself. And here is my first step. I’m surely going to add more to it!

Ja Simran ja, jile apni zindagi!

Sayonara!

Hope you all have a cozy weekend!

Vidhi Sonar

12th September, 2020

WHAT CAN YOU LET GO OF TODAY?

Namaste friends! So, I’m learning to speak hello/hi in different languages. But why not start it with my national language.😉 By the way, how are you all doing? How was your first week of September? For me, the week flew by so quickly, maybe because I’m constantly looking forward to the weekends now. Because that means a new blog! Anyways, I hope you all have a wonderful weekend too! Have you guys ever thought of setting up new goals or at least stop doing something which is not right that can affect you in a negative way?

There are so many situations where we think, we should stop reacting like we usually do. For example, I don’t want to handle a situation in a specific manner, but it certainly happens and it’s uncontrollable. And then, I react in a way that I shouldn’t have. Why does that happen? All of us agree that we could have stopped practicing this before. But you can still break up with all these groundless thinking and try to improve. It is not easy to remind ourselves of this every now and then, which is why it’s a powerful exercise. However, it is possible if you start doing it daily. You got to learn new life lessons and it’s never too late to do that!

There are few things that you can stop doing right after reading this blog and start practicing good habits.

  • Worrying about things that I can’t control

We usually tell people around us that ‘Why are you stressing about it man? It’s not in our hands. Let’s see what happens’, and worry about the things we can’t control. Try to control your thoughts if you cannot change something that is unmanageable. Observe your reactions. Try to control them. Whenever I catch myself taking things too seriously that I can’t control, I force myself to take a step back. Worrying about everything will overtire us. And we definitely don’t want to exhaust ourselves. Control. Calm down. Carry on.

  • Carrying grudges in your heart.

At times, you can forget what your brain has stored but what’s in your heart, will always remain there. This is why holding grudges is not a good option. We understand that it’s not easy to forgive. There are countless emotions playing in our body when we’re hurt by someone and it is absolutely natural. But letting go of a grudge will cause us less pain. Most of the times, we think we’re over it, but we’re not. The grudge that we are holding is actually holding us. That doesn’t mean we have to forgive the person; but we cannot let our inner peace go, right? Figure out. Forget. Free yourself.

  • Being afraid to speak your mind

If it is going to offend someone, despite of being wrong, speak. Always speak if you have something to say. Do not hold yourself back unless it’s meant to hurt someone. If you don’t agree with something, correct it. It’s not like everyone wants to hear the truth, but if that makes you feel better, get it off your chest. You never know what effect your words might have on someone. On the other side, when someone tries to correct me, I feel like a fool but I’m not a close minded person. We can try to defend but we also need to understand. Connect. Challenge your ideas. Comprehend.

  • Criticizing yourself for rejections

Don’t. Don’t ever criticize yourself for rejections. Don’t put the pressure on yourself for getting rejected. Sometimes we’re so desperate to achieve everything in little time. Who isn’t interested in success? Everyone is. I’m not saying that being compassionate is wrong, but when that does not happen, we run ourselves down. In this way, we’re letting our fear win. Failure can happen. It will hurt. How we cope with it says a lot about who we are. Understand failure because that’s where growth happens. Also, what is meant for you will not pass you by. Walk. Become a force of will. Win.

  • Feeling bad for not living up to other’s standards

What is the point? I mean, I realize that we care a lot about what others think of us, which is very natural. But living a life according to other people’s choice is certainly not what we want all the time. Asking for suggestions and giving them the power to rule you, are two different things. This is your life. You know better. Take care of yourself. I keep talking about this in my blogs but self care is important. The difficulty lies in the practice. But trying to live our life based on our choices is a reward to ourselves. Start saying no to people and find your own happiness. Leave negativity. Live positively. Love your life.

  • Being distressed for putting yourself first

Take a note of this. Be kind to yourself first and then be kind to others. There is always at least one person in your life of whom you think, before deciding what is best for you. Though sometimes, you can be a little selfish. You talk to yourself the most. But how many times do you talk about yourself? How many times do you say, ‘I’m doing this for me?’ Putting yourself first is not belittling others but understanding the value of self love. We owe this to ourselves. Believe. Be intentional. Bloom.

  • Anything that happened in the past

Life goes on… Our lives have changed their colors from time to time. And we tried to find the good in all situations.  Learning lessons is a part of growing up. But sometimes, I feel it could have been better. Still, letting go is a better option according to me. Don’t hold onto things from the past. Instead of focusing on what was wrong, focus on what was right. Take care of your mindset. We can make the most of the time we have now. Pretermit past. Party in present. Prosper.


The reason why I wrote this is because I believe that this can help us. I think the year 2020 did not work as planned, but will definitely be remembered for many other reasons. And I want it to be beneficial for us. I have made a bigger not-to-do list instead of a to-do-list this time, because we have to learn stop carrying guilt. I wish I could turn back time, which is obviously not possible! So now, we should make the most of what we have. Make most of everyday. Let’s see how it works?

Kahi pohochne ke liye kahi se nikalna bohot zaruri hota hai.

Have a great weekend!

Vidhi Sonar

5th September, 2020

HOW TO CARRY YOURSELF?

This is not what you’re supposed to be looking for.

Yay, it’s the last Saturday of August! I think we all were excited throughout this week and there is no need to give an explanation about it. I think welcoming Gampy at our homes is in itself the biggest celebration that we have apart from our birthdays!😁 I wish you have a happy weekend too! Now coming back to my title, can you tell me some positive stuff going on in your life right now? Oh, I forgot to mention the people. Let’s do it again… Can you tell me some positives going on in your life right now, that you’re doing without thinking about what people would say? I think that has less to do with what you’re doing but we can’t deny the fact that we do give it so much of importance than it really deserves.

The other day I saw a quote that said, “The best weight you’ll ever lose is the weight of other people’s opinion of you.” And this hit the right spot so hard, that I had to write about this. It is something everyone would relate to. Everyone experiences this phase at one point in their life. Nervousness is stored in everyone’s body. 

There are so many people around us who are there for everyone and have some professional skills of being in touch whenever we need but don’t get the same amount of love. And those are the people who think thousands of times before doing something. There is a fear of what if I do something and people judge me. What if it indicates something wrong. It is not like you’re an introvert. But despite of being an expressive person, you struggle with what people would feel. Why does this happen? Sometimes we want people to just be around us. But when you’re told by them that, ‘it’s nothing’ or ‘grow up’, you do feel bad about yourself. People keep judging without learning enough about the person, and it is you, who is concerned about it. And that makes you nervous to be YOU.

With me, I always panic before speaking to strangers. At times, also with the people I know. I lose my words and get convinced that people may think I was stupid. It was embarrassing. But now I feel it’s embarrassing only if you allow it to be. Just because I’m nervous, doesn’t mean that has to be my everlasting state. I have realized that it is not me but the situation. When we experience disappointment from the way others treat us, that’s the time to take special care of ourselves. No one likes to be judged for what they love to do. I think it is you who should appreciate yourself when no one else is. You should always be your biggest fan. And if someone is not seeing your consistency, don’t stop yourself from what you’re doing.

What if things change and your nervousness has been lying the entire time? What if things work out? What if everything turns out better than you imagined? Don’t let people make you forget your real identity. Being different isn’t a bad thing. It takes courage to speak, to follow with what you’re doing and keep doing it honestly. If you’re not a trend-follower, it is okay. Pamper yourself instead of pleasing others. Start improving rather than impressing. Your goal is growth. You never know. The future is full of small successes and then big successes and beautiful things that will make your heart shine bright.

No, I’m not writing this as a motivational speech. This is something everyone needs to realize but still it is not widely talked. This is also for the people who are sitting on the other side of the table who are fence sitters on the issues. We all agree that we cannot be there for everyone who need help. But we can surely stay quiet instead of passing on comments. It’s worse than actually not being there. If you cannot offer empathy, then offer nothing. At the same time, it is also important to surround ourselves with the people who won’t disparage us or anyone for that matter. 

If you do something and feel it is not good enough, it is ok. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. You’re on your journey. You’re trying. Take it easy on yourself. Don’t compare yourself with anyone. Everyone has a different path. Remember who you’re when others forget. Give yourself time. Love yourself more than anyone else.

Life has a funny way of coming together sometimes. Keep trying. Because, Picture abhi baaki hai mere dost!

Vidhi Sonar

29th August, 2020

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